Chii 'Bridgerton' Anowana Zvakashata Nezve Bonde - uye Nei Zvichikosha

Zvemukati

• Iyo yekudhonza-kunze nzira haisi inoshanda nzira yekuzvarwa nayo.
• Kuongorora ropa hakukuudze kuti une mimba.
• Iwe haugone kuita orgasm nguva yekuita bonhora kekutanga.
• Haufanire kusvetuka kuita weti mushure mebonde.
• Iwe unogona kunge usina iyo libido yakafanana neumwe wako - uye ndizvo.
• Bonde haridi kubva pa0 kuenda pa100.
• Iwe haugone kuve orgasm chete kubva pakupinda.
• Kubvumirana ndicho chinhu chikuru.
• Ongororo ye

Maminitsi matatu chete muchikamu chekutanga che Bridgerton, uye iwe unogona kukuudza kuti uri mune inonaka inonaka. Mukati mese Shondaland yakarova Netflix yakatevedzana, iwe unosangana nemhepo inoputika pamusoro pemadhesiki akasimba emapuranga, emuromo macapades pamamanera uye mumatanho, uye akawanda mabheti.

Uye nepo iwo akateedzana aine chokwadi chekuti hunyengeri hwekuita kuti vateereri vapise uye vanetseke (kana zvirinani, zvinyoro-nyoro kugamuchirwa nemhepo inopisa yenguva yeRegency), hazviwanzo kuratidza bonde nenzira chaiyo - kana chaicho - nzira . Ehe saizvozvo, Bridgerton haina kumbobvira yaitirwa kuti ive yepabonde ed kirasi, asi kune vamwe vanhu, chaizvo zvakanaka inogona kushanda zvakafanana chinangwa. Matunhu makumi maviri nemasere chete uye Dunhu reColumbia rinoda kuti dzidzidziswe pabonde uye nehutachiwana hweHIV muzvikoro zveveruzhinji, sekureva kweGuttmacher Institute, sangano rekutsvagisa nehurongwa rakazvipira kusimudzira hutano hwepabonde nekubereka uye kodzero. Pamatunhu iwayo, gumi nenomwe chete anorayira kuti dzidzo iyi ive chaiyo yekurapa, maererano neInstitute. (Yakabatana: Dzidzo yebonde muUS Yakaputsika - Sustain Anoda Kuigadzirisa)

Kuti uzadze gaka iri muzivo, maMireniyamu mazhinji ari kugadzirisa mumaterevhizheni avo. Ongororo ya2018 yevane makore gumi nemasere kusvika makumi maviri nemapfumbamwe yakawana kuti ruzhinji rwevatori vechikamu vakawana yakawanda yedzidzo yavo yebonde kubva pane izvo zvavakaona paTV kana kudzidza nezvazvo kuburikidza nepop tsika. "Dzidzo inogona kunge isiri kwese, asi vezvenhau ndizvo chaizvo," anodaro Janielle Bryan, M.P.H., chiremba wezveutano uye mudzidzisi wezvepabonde. "Kune vamwe vana nevakuru vechidiki, ndiyo chete bonde ravari kuwana, saka kunyatsoita chokwadi, ndiko kwedzidzo - uye kana ndikati dzidzo, handireve kufinha - zvirinani. Kumiririra kunokosha zvinhu zvakawanda, uye izvo zvinosanganisira bonde ed. "

Izvo hazvireve kuti iwe unofanirwa kubvisa Bridgerton - kana chero imwe isiri-iyo-yechokwadi sexy akatevedzana - kubva kune yako Netflix mutsara zvachose. Panzvimbo iyoyo, tora iyo racy zviitiko iwe yauri kuona neiyo tsanga yemunyu. "Zvakakosha chaizvo kuyeuka izvi ndezve choreographed bonde," anodaro Jack Pearson, Ph.D., ari-mudzimba nyanzvi yezvekurapa ku Natural Cycles, chirongwa chekuzvarwa uye chekutevera chekubereka. "Ini ndinofunga zvakakosha kubvuma kuti chaiyo-hupenyu bonde hwakawanda kwazvo [hupombwe] ... uye ini ndaisazoishandisa sehwaro hwekuenzanisa zvachose. Unofanira kutora kurudziro kubva pairi, asi kwete kuti ushandise kuzvitongesa nezvauri kuita mubhedhuru. "

Iyo inotevera nguva iwe yaunonamira pasi kuti ubate-tarisa iyo inotyisa show yegore - kunyangwe iri yako yekutanga kuona kana yako yechina - chengeta izvi zvisirizvo uye mifananidzo isiri yechokwadi yebonde mupfungwa.

Iyo yekudhonza-kunze nzira haisi inoshanda nzira yekuzvarwa nayo.

Kutanga kwemwaka, Simon Basset, akanaka uye anoyevedza Duke weHastings, anopika kuti haachazove nevana kuti ashore baba vake uye nekupedza dzinza remhuri yake. Saka pahusiku hwakamirirwa kwenguva refu apo Simon nemukadzi wake mutsva, Daphne Bridgerton, vanopedzisa roorano yavo, Mutungamiriri anobvisa icho chaizove siginicha yake kufamba mukati memwaka wese: kubvisa peni yake kubva kuna Daphne chinguva chidiki chisati chabuda.

Kuburitsa-kunze kunogona kunge kwaive nzira inogamuchirwa yekudzivirira kubereka nzira kumashure muzana ramakore rechi19, asi Pearson anoti haisi nzira inoshanda yekudzivirira nhumbu nemiyero yanhasi. "Sperm inogona kuvapo mu pre-cum, uye kana paine, pane mukana wekuti nhumbu ichaitika," anotsanangura. "[Izvi zvinogonawo kuitika] kana murume asina kukurumidza kukurumidza uye akabuditsa yese kana zvidimbu zvembeu mumukadzi."

Muchokwadi, vangangoita makumi maviri nevaviri kubva pavanhu zana vese vanoshandisa nzira yekubvisa vanove nepamuviri gore rega rega, sekureva kweOfisi yeVanhukadzi Hutano. (Hongu, irwo rudzi rwakawanda.) Saka kana uri kuedza nokushingaira kudzivirira kubata pamuviri, taura nachiremba wako pamusoro pedzimwe nzira dzokuronga nadzo dzokubereka dzinobvumikiswa kuva dzinoshanda zvikuru, dzakadai semichina ye intrauterine, zvinodzivisa kubatwa pamuviri, zvindori zvomukati, kana kuti. zvigamba zveganda.

Kuongorora ropa hakukuudze kuti une mimba.

Nguva pfupi Marina Thompson asvika paimba huru yeFeatherington, anoonekwa achichera mumachira ake achitsvaga ropa, chiratidzo chekuti nguva yake yasvika husiku hwese. Nehurombo kune mutsva wedhorobha, mashiti aMarina akachena sechando changodonha, icho, muna 1813, chinoonekwa sechiratidzo chechokwadi chekuti ane nhumbu.

Asi kushanyirwa kwaasina kubva kuna Tete Flo hakungorevi kuti wava "nemwana," sekutaura kunoita Marina. "Chero ani zvake anotenderera anogona kusangana nekuenda kumwedzi zvisina kujairika nguva nenguva, saka kusvetukira kumhedziso kana usati wabuda ropa mukati memasvondo mana kunogona kukupinza mukuvhunduka pasina chikonzero," anodaro Pearson. "Kutaura zvazviri, kudzidza kweNatural Cycle neUniversity College London, iyo yakatarisa pamusoro pe600,000 mikombe, yakawana kuti mumwe chete pavakadzi vasere akawana kutenderera kwemazuva makumi maviri nemasere." Kunyange hazvo zvakakomba zvehutano zvakadai se polycystic ovary syndrome, endometriosis, uye fibroids zvinogona kunonoka nguva yako, kunyangwe shanduko diki kune hutano hwako, sekuderedza uremu, kudzikamisa maitiro ako ekurovedza muviri, kana kubata nekushushikana kunogona kukanganisa kutenderera kwako, sekureva kweCleveland Kiriniki.

Pasina kutaura, zvinokwanisika kuve neropa kubuda ropa kana kuona mangwanani munguva yekutanga trimester, kunyanya kana zai rakaberekerwa rinotanga kubatirira kumadziro echibereko (aka kudyara), kana iwe uchiita bonde, uine hutachiona, kana mahormone ako ari kuchinja-chinja, maererano neUS National Library of Medicine. Wedzera mune chokwadi chekuti zvimwe zvezvimwe zviratidzo zvekutanga zvekuzvitakura zvinogona kufanana nezviratidzo zvePMS - kusanganisira kusvotwa, kuneta, uye kunyorova kwezamu - uye zvinogona kuoma kutaura kana iwe uine nhumbu kana kwete zvichibva pakuziva kana nguva yekutevera chete. , anodaro Pearson. "Asi kutora iyo nhumbu yekuedza uye kuyedza kuona nyanzvi yako yehutano kunogona kukuwanisa mhinduro chaiyo ipapo," anowedzera.

Iwe haugone kuita orgasm nguva yekuita bonhora kekutanga.

Pasina nguva refu Simon audza Daphne nezvekufara kwekuzvibata pakati pemakumbo ako, maDuchess emangwana anorara pamubhedha wake kuti azviongorore. Uye mukati menguva dzokumhanyisa zvigunwe zvake kumusoro kwemhuru dzake uye pasi penguvo yake yokurara, anosvika pakakwirira kekutanga.

IRL, nguva yako yekutanga uchiedza kuita bonhora ingangoenderana neyaDaphne. “Munhu wose akasiyana, uye muviri womunhu wose wakasiyana,” anodaro Bryan. "Handisi kuzotaura kuti hazvingamboitika nekukurumidza zvakadaro, asi kana mumwe munhu achiita bonhora kekutanga, zvinowanzoenderana nekuti vanoenderana sei nemuviri wavo uye kuti vanoziva zvakadii nezvavo."

Ndosaka Bryan achikurudzira vanhu veese mazera kutora girazi rinochengetwa nemaoko uye vopa nzvimbo yavo yepasi yakanaka, yakaoma kutarisa vasati vaenda wega. Nekutora nguva yekudzidza maitiro ako - kusanganisira kupi chikamu chega chega chako iripo uye zvavanoratidzika - haufanire kuchera uchitsvaga clitoris nedzimwe nzvimbo dzinonzwa-dzakanaka apo uri kuedza kuzvikurudzira. Mhedzisiro inogona kuitika: Anokurumidza uye akasimba Os, anodaro Bryan.

Kune rekodhi, zvakajairika kuita bonhora uye kusasvika pakakwirira zvachose, anowedzera Bryan. “Kunyange kana uine ruzivo rwakawanda newe, dzimwe nguva harisi zuva racho,” anodaro. "Ndicho chinhu pamusoro pemiviri: Vanoita chero chavanoda kuita. Hazvireve kuti kekutanga [iwe uchiita bonhora] uchaita zemo, uye hazvireve kuti kechigumi unenge uine zemo. "

Haufanire kusvetuka kuita weti mushure mebonde.

Vateereri * nehunyanzvi * haamboone vatambi 'post-romp maitiro, asi zvakachengeteka kufunga kuti vangangodaro vasina kurovera chimbuzi nekukurumidza mushure mekuita rudo. Asi kuita izvi inzira inokosha yekudzivirira urinary tract infection (UTI), iyo inogona kukura apo bhakitiriya inopinda muchikanda chako, maererano neOWH.

Heino mashandiro ayo: Panguva yepabonde uye zvimwe zvinokatyamadza, zviitiko zvisina mabhurugwa, mabhakitiriya kubva kumukadzi uye anus anogona kuendesa kuurthra (iyo chubhu kubva mudundira panobuda weti mumuviri wako). Ikoko, inogona kuwanda uye kukonzera kuzvimba, uko kunogona kukonzera kurwadziwa kana kupisa paunenge uchiita weti uye shungu yekutarisa kazhinji (kunyangwe isina weti yakawanda ichibuda) - zviratidzo zvekutaura kwe UTI, sekureva kweOWH. Anobuda, Daphne achiudza Simoni iye "akamupisira" iye vasati vasvetuka mapfupa eumwe neumwe kwekutanga nguva yaive yekufananidzira.

Izvo zvakati, kukoira mushure mekuita bonde kunogona kubatsira kudzivirira kubva kuUTIs, maererano neongororo yakaburitswa mu Zvinyorwa zveKliniki Epidemiology. Muchokwadi, kumwe kuongorora kwakaratidza kuti mwedzi mitanhatu mushure mevakadzi vanoita zvepabonde vakagadzira yavo yekutanga UTI, chiitiko chehutachiona hwechipiri hwakanga hwakaderera pakati peavo vakataura kudonha mushure mebonde. “Kuita weti mushure mekusangana kunongobatsira kuburitsa weti, uko kunobuda weti,” anotsanangura kudaro Pearson."Inongobatsira chero bhakitiriya ingave yakasundirwa kumusoro uko kuti ibude." (Zvakafanana: Unogona Kuita Bonde neUTI?)

Iwe unogona kunge usina iyo libido yakafanana neumwe wako - uye ndizvo.

Kuzviisa zvakapusa, Simon naDaphne vanoenda kwazviri setsuro munguva yavo yehusiku. Uye mukusangana pabonde kwese kuratidzwa, maDuke nemaDuchess zvakavhurwa zvakaenzana uye vakagadzirira kudzika kubhizinesi. Spoiler: Uyu mutambo wakagadzirwa mu libido kudenga hachisi chinhu chinoitika kazhinji muhupenyu chaihwo - uye ndizvo, anodaro Bryan.

"Bonde rinotanga mupfungwa, saka kana iwe uchinetseka nezve chimwe chinhu, icho chinogona kurasa libido," anotsanangura kudaro. "Uye kana usingatauri [shanduko yako mu libido] kune mumwe wako, ivo vanongoedza kusvetuka mapfupa ako, pamwe hazvizoendi sezvazviri Bridgerton.”

Izvo zvakakoshawo kuti urangarire kuti kana iwe uchigara usiri mumafungiro apo mumwe wako akagadzirira kuita frisky, hazvireve kuti haufare nehupenyu hwako hwepabonde kana yako S.O, anodaro Bryan. "Vamwe vanhu vanonzwa kunge urikuramba bonde, uri kuvaramba, uye handizvo," anotsanangura kudaro. “Unokwanisa kuda mumwe wako, kuchengeta mudiwa wako, kuda bonde kune mumwe wako, uye kuchinja kwehudo hwako hakuchinje izvozvo. Hazvisi pamusoro pavo - ndicho chiito pachacho. "

Kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti imi nevakaroorana muri papeji imwe chete, vayeuchidzei kuti havazi ivo vane dambudziko, mozotanga kutaurirana navo nezve chii chiri * kukutadzisai, anodaro Bryan. Kutsanangura chero chiri kuitika mumusoro mako chiri kushandura manzwiro ako kunogona kukubatsira iwe nemumwe wako kutsvaga nzira dzekugadzirisa nyaya dzako, izvo zvinogona kukubatsira kuti libido yako idzokere kune yako yakajairika, anodaro. (Zvinoenderana: Kunzwisisa Iyi 2 Mhando dzeShuwo Dzepabonde Dzinokubatsira Iwe Kunzwa Mukutonga kweRibido Yako)

Bonde haridi kubva pa0 kuenda pa100.

Bridgerton's zano rinogona kunge richinonoka kufamba, asi zviitiko zvebonde zvine chokwadi - zvinokurumidza zvekuti Simon naDaphne vanowanzodarika mutambo wekutanga uye kusvetuka vakananga kupinza. Ivo vaviri vanogona kumutswa zvakakwana kuti vawane zvakanaka pamasekonzi mashanu mushure mekutsvoda, asi kune muvhareji muoni, yakareba-inodziya-nguva ingangodiwa.

"Ini ndinowanzoti nhengo hombe yebonde iri pakati penzeve dzako," anodaro Bryan. “Saka kana usingasimudzirwe nepfungwa, unogona kunge usina kusimbiswa panyama, uye zvinogona kunge zvisina kugadzikana nekuti muviri wako hausi kugadzira girisi rezvakasikwa [panguva iyoyo]. Pane mukana wakanaka kana ukasamutswa, kupinda kunogona kurwadza nekuti [nyinyo yako ichaoma. ” (Mushure mezvose, Daphne naSimon vanga vasina lube rakamira pamatafura avo emubhedha.)

Kupedza mashoma ekuwedzera maminetsi pane foreplay kunogona kukuita iwe wepfungwa uye nemuviri kugadzirira chiito chikuru. Uyezve, foreplay inogona kubatsira kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchitaurirana nemumwe wako mutsva uye uchiri kuyedza kudzidzisana muviri, zvaunoda, uye zvausingade, anodaro Bryan. "Nekuti foreplay kazhinji inofamba zvishoma zvishoma, unokwanisa kuita hurukuro uye kutungamira mumwe wako usati waenda kunopinda," anotsanangura.

Iwe haugone kuve orgasm chete kubva pakupinda.

Nekusvetukira kumberi, zvinoita zvakare kuti Daphne akapotsa kuwana iyo hombe Os iyo Duke anogara achiwana kuburikidza nePIV chiito. ICYDK, zvikamu zvitatu muzvina zvevarume vanoti vanosvika pakakwirira pose pavanoita zvepabonde, zvichienzaniswa ne28 muzana chete yevakadzi, maererano neongororo yeLovehoney yevanhu 4,400. Zvakare, 18.4 muzana chete yevakadzi vakaongororwa vakashuma kuti kusangana chete kwaive "kwakakwana" zvakakwana kuita orgasm, maererano neongororo yevakadzi vanopfuura 1,000 yakabudiswa mu Nyaya Yebonde & Marital Therapy.

Saka manje zvinoita kubvisa vamwe vakadzi? Clitoral kukurudzira, vangave vega kana nemudiwa wavo, uye bonde remuromo, maererano neongororo diki yevakadzi vanoita zvepabonde - inofamba iyo Daphne haawanzo kuoneka panguva yebonde, nekudaro kushomeka kwese kwechikadzi orgasms kunoitika munhevedzano. (Icho chokwadi chekuti gasm musiyano unopfuurira kunyangwe mune erotica zvakanyanya yakanangana nevakadzi ihombe ol ' gomera.)

Uye padivi peye bonyora yake, iyo chete nguva yacho anotarisa saDaphne ari kuita orgasm zvechokwadi panguva yekupedzisira romp, nguva mushure mekunge vabvumirana kugara pamwe chete uye kugadzira mhuri. Sezvo kuchema kuchikwira, vaviri vacho vanoita kunge vanoguma panguva * chaiyo * nguva imwe chete. Izvo zvinokwanisika kuzadzikisa zvisingawanzo panguva imwe chete kana orgasm IRL, asi zvinoda zvishoma zvekudzidzira (ingobvunza munyori uyu akazviita chisarudzo chake cheGore Idzva). Uyezve, hazviite kuti zvaizoitika mushure memasekondi makumi maviri ekusimudzira. Zvinoenderana neongororo yeLovehoney, muhafu yezviitiko zvakagovaniswa zvegasm, munhu mumwe anowanzo svika ku "trigger point" uye anoda kumirira mumwe wake kuti abate. TL; DR: Iwe newawakaroorana naye orgasm zvinogona kutora nguva yakati rebei kuti zvibudirire pane iyo yakakwana Duke uye maDuchess '.

Kubvumirana ndicho chinhu chikuru.

Nguva pfupi yapfuura Daphne aona kuti nhumbu inoitika sei uye kuti Simon anogona kuva nevana (haangodi hake), anoenderera mberi nekugadzira imwe yemakakatanwa epamusorosoro: Pakati-pabonde, maDuchess anosimudza Iye pachake pamusoro peSimon cowgirl-style uye, paanenge ava kuda kubuditsa urume, anoramba kumurega achibuditsa - nzira yake yekudzivirira kubata pamuviri. Nguva diki diki, anong'un'una achiti, "Ungazvigona sei iwe?"

Nepo Simon akabvuma kuita bonde, akadaro kwete mvumo yekuuya mukati meDaphne, anodaro Bryan. Rangarira, Daphne aiziva akanga asingadi kuva nevana (kunyange zvazvo zvisiri zvikonzero chaizvo nei). Uye kunyangwe iye Duke asina kunyatso kushevedzera, "Kwete, mira," iye akaita iti, "mirira, mirira, Daphne," uye airatidzika kusagadzikana nezve kusakwanisa kutora. "Saka kunyange Simon asina kumupa ruzivo rwakakwana [nezve sarudzo iyi yekusaita vana] kuti atore danho rine ruzivo, hapana munhu akabvumidzwa kutyora miganhu yako nekuti haishande kwavari," anodaro Bryan. Kubvuma, Chokwadi? Uyezve, Sei uye Rini Kukukumbira)

Munguva yekusangana pabonde, kuramba uchikumbira kubvumidzwa kwakakosha. Bvunza mumwe wako kana ari pasi nokuda kwechiito chacho pamberi iwe unotanga, uye sezvaunoramba uchiwedzera zvaunoedza kuita, tarisa navo kuti uone kuti vanoda kuenderera mberi, anodaro Bryan. “Isu tinotaura zvakare nemiviri yedu kupfuura zvatinoita nemashoko edu, saka kana chero panguva yebonde uri kunzwa muviri kana chimiro chechiso chinoratidza kuti mumwe munhu haana kugadzikana, tarisa,” anodaro. Uye kana vakasakupa nechido "hongu" - zvichireva kuti vanoti "Handina chokwadi" kana "izvi hazvinzwi zvakanaka" - mira zviitwa zvako ipapo, anowedzera Bryan. Rangarira: Iwe kana mudiwa wako munokwanisa kubvisa mvumo chero nguva. (Uye inogara iri zano rakanaka kutarisa-mushure mebonde - aka mushure mekuchengetwa - kutaura kuburikidza chero chinhu chakaita kana chisina kufamba zvakanaka uye nemanzwiro awakaita imi nezvezvinhu.)

Ongororo ye