Vakadzi Vanofanira Kuroorwa Here?

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Kunyangwe iwe wakasendamira mukati kana kwete, vakadzi vazhinji vanozvida zvese kana zvasvika pamurume. Saka kana iwe ukamuwana uye ukave mukadzi wake, iwe ungangonzwa kunge hupenyu hwako (kana zvirinani chikamu cherudo) hachigone kuve nani-kudzamara waona chimwe chinhu chinoita kunge chiri kushaika: yako libido.

Zvinoenderana nechidzidzo chidiki chevakadzi vakaroora chakaburitswa muna Chinyorwa cheBonde uye Marital Therapy, vakadzi vanowanzo kurasikirwa nechido chebonde varume vavo vasati vadaro. [Tweet iyi chokwadi] Usati washushikana, inzwa izvo nyanzvi dzinofunga kuti zvinogona kunge zvichipesana naMai mojo uye maitiro ekuchengeta yako ichienda yakasimba nguva refu mushure mekunge honeymoon yapera.

Zvavanoda vakadzi zvachinja. Imba tsvene yekuroora haisi izvo zvayaimbove. Maonero echikadzi emubatanidzwa wakanaka, wakasimba wakanyanya kuomarara kupfuura nakare-uye, mune dzimwe nguva, uchiganhurana pane zvisingaitiki. Psychotherapist uye Kusvirana muKutapa munyori Esther Perel akapfupikisa zvakanyanya mune yake inoshamisa mukurumbira TED Kutaura, "Chakavanzika chekuda mune yehukama hurefu hukama":

"Muchato chaive chiitiko chezveupfumi chawakapihwa mubatanidzwa weupenyu hwese maererano nevana, chimiro munzanga, kutsivana, uye ushamwari. Asi ikozvino ... tinouya kumunhu mumwe uye tiri kuvakumbira kuti vatipe izvo kamwe chete zvachose. musha waishandiswa kupa: kuva, kuzivikanwa, kuenderera mberi, kudarika, chakavanzika, kutya, kunyaradza, kumucheto, hutsva, ruzivo, kufanotaura, uye kushamisa zvose mune imwe. " Oo, ndizvo chete here?

Kutaura kuti "Ndinoda" imhondi huru. Kunyangwe iwe wawana wako mweya mweya, ingori chokwadi chekuti iko kunzwa kwaLovin kuchazopera. "Uropi ndiyo yakakura erogenous zone yevakadzi, uye kana wangochata, kukurudzira kwehuropi kwawakambotora hakupo nekuti munenge muri pamwe nguva dzese uye hapana chakavanzika chasara - kufembera kwepfungwa kwaunoda kwapera. , "anodaro chiremba wepfungwa," Belisa Vranich, Psy.D., nhengo yedare rezano reSHAPE. Mune mamwe mazwi, pasina mufaro, vakadzi havagone kufara.

Hazvibatsiri kuti varume vanowanzova vakasununguka chaizvo muhukama vakadzi vasati vaita, saka iwe uchinyatsozviisa pamwe chete kune zuva rekudya kwemanheru, haatombochinji hembe yake. "Zvakakosha kugara wakanaka kune mumwe nemumwe," Vranich anodaro. Uye sezvo vakomana vasina zvakafanana magariro zvinomanikidza kuti varambe vachishambidzika uye vachitaridzika zvakanaka, kubviswa uku kunogona kuve kudzima chaiko.

Chengetedzo inoridza bonde. Saka nei vakadzi vachinamatira kwenguva refu mushure mekunge yawana vanilla? "Kuroora kunoenderana nekunyaradzwa, kufungidzira, uye chengetedzo," Vranich anotsanangura, "izvo zvinoyemurika zveupenyu hwezuva nezuva nekumbundirana, asi zvinosuwisa kuti izvi zvinouraya chishuwo, icho chinoda huipi, kuzvidzora, uye kusekwa." Nekudaro nekuti isu isu pachedu tinoda kuchengetedzeka kupfuura bonde, vamwe vakadzi vanonyatsofara nehukama-husina kubatwa (kana kunyange husina bonde) hukama, anowedzera.

Varume vanoburuka zviri nyore. Sezvaungave iwe wakacherekedza, chishuwo chinobva kubva kumusoro mumwe mumadzimai uye imwe (pasi kumaodzanyemba) mune gents. Zvido zvake zvinogona kuzadzikiswa nechinguva chidiki chenguva pfupi, asi kukanganiswa kudiki kwako kunogona kureva kuti O ndiko kusaenda. "Zvese kubva pakugumbuka kusvika pakufunga nezvechimwe chinhu chawakakanganwa kuita kuti tsoka dzako dzitonhore zvinogona kukutadzisa kuita orgasm," anodaro Vranich. Kana mumwe wako asingafungi zvekusvika pakakwirira sewake uye chinhu chake, bonde rinowanzo kuve rinoshungurudza uye risinganyanye kufadza.

Kuvhara kunogona kunge kuchipisa ... Usati watengesa bhutsu yako yekinky yekutsvedza imba, tora izvi: Muongororo yakaitwa naMatch.com uye chipangamazano wezvesainzi saiti Helen Fisher, Ph.D., yakakwira muzana yevakuru vakati bonde riri nani muhukama husina kuroora hurefu. -temu, kugara-mushamwari."Kugona kuparara kunoreva kuti mose munofanira kuramba muri pamusoro pemutambo wenyu, kunyange zvishoma. Unoda kuita zvakakwana kuti uzvichengetedze uye zvinonakidza, "anodaro Vranich, uyo anowanikwa mune zvake maitiro uye tsvakurudzo iyo. vanhu vanobiridzira zvishoma kana vasina kuvharirwa. [Tita izvi!]

...kana kuti "Ndinodaro," zviri nani uye zvakanyanya. Kunyangwe iwe usiri kuve ne-toe-curling climaxes manheru ega ega, iwe unogona kuramba uine yako uchifara zvachose. "Gore rakapera, takaita chidzidzo nevanhu 1 000 vakaroora, uye ndakashamisika kuziva kuti makumi masere muzana vakati vaizoroorazve mumwe wavo," anodaro Fisher, anthropologist. Makumi manomwe neshanu muzana vakataura kuti vaive vachiri kupenga murudo nemudiwa wavo-uye vamwe vanga vagara vese kweanopfuura makore makumi maviri nemashanu.

Kuti zviite zvekupedzisira, unofanirwa kuve neshuwa kuti uri kurohwa nekuda kwezvikonzero chaizvo uye usatombomira kuisa mari kune mumwe nemumwe. "Zvakakosha kuonana sevanhu vakazvimiririra vanonakidza vaunonyatsoda kwete kungoda," anodaro Vranich. Kusiyana-siyana-mukati uye kubva pamubhedha-hakumbokuvadzi kana. "Novelty inomutsa dopamine system muuropi, iyo inokonzera testosterone system uye inogona kumutsa chido chepabonde," Fisher anodaro.

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