Maitiro Ekutaura Nezve Kuzviuraya neVanhu Vaunoda

Zvemukati

• Haasi ese mazwi anogona kutorwa kumashure nyore - kana munguva
• Usambofa wakatsanangura kuzviuraya se
  
• Iwe haugone kuvimbisa chero munhu kuti zvive nani
• Panzvimbo pekudzokorora zvataurwa nemumwe munhu, tanga wazvibvunza
  
• Rega chishuwo chekuva nzvimbo yakachengeteka yehama dzako dzinotungamira mazwi ako
• Hutano hwepfungwa huwandu
  
• Chiyeuchidzo: Kurwara kwepfungwa hakusi simba rakakura

Ungaita sei kubatana kwemumwe munhu nenyika.

Kana iwe kana mumwe munhu waunoziva achifunga kuzviuraya, rubatsiro ruri kunze uko. Svika kuNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline pa800-273-8255.

Kana zvasvika pamamiriro ezvinhu akaoma, iwe unoziva sei zvekutaura usingatambudzi munhu? Vanhu vazhinji vanodzidza nekudzokorora mitsara iyo yavakaona vamwe vachishandisa. Zvatinoona munhau, zvakapararira zvakanyanya kumamirioni, zvingaratidzika sezvakanaka kushandisa mazuva ese.

Asi nekuda kwenyaya dzakaita sekurova kana kuzviuraya, zvinogona kutumira meseji kushamwari dzedu kuti hatisi mubatsiri wavo.

“Nei ndakanga ndisiri iye munhu, kana kuti nei ndisina kuonekwa semunhu, kuti vakadzi ava vagone kunzwa vakasununguka kuudza zviri mukati? Ndinoona izvi sekutadza kwangu. ”

Anthony Bourdain paakataura izvi, zvaive nezve #MeToo uye vakadzi muhupenyu hwake: Sei vasina kunzwa kuchengetedzeka kwaari? Kutora kwake kwaive kwakanyanya. Haana kunongedza minwe kuvakadzi kana hurongwa.

Pane kudaro, akaona sarudzo yavo yekunyarara yaive yakanyanya kutaura nezvehunhu hwake. Kana, zvakanyanya, chiratidzo chekuti nzira yaanga achizvibata nayo yakaratidza vakadzi kuti anga asina kuchengetedzeka kana kuvimbika.

Ndakafunga zvakawanda nezve kuongororwa kwake kubva paakazvitaura uye kubvira paakapasa. Zvakandiita kuti ndipe kufunga kwakanyanya nezvekuti mazwi magirazi sei, anoratidza sei hunhu hwemutauri, uye wandinogona kuvimba naye.

Vazhinji, kusanganisira vabereki vangu neshamwari dzandakaziva kwemakore gumi-ekuwedzera, havaite runyorwa.

“Chii chandakaita [ini], ndazviratidza sei nenzira yekuti ndisape chivimbo, kana kuti sei ndanga ndisiri iye munhu munhu anozoonekwa semubatsiri wepanyama pano? Saka ndakatanga kuzvitarisa. ” - Anthony Bourdain

Kana zvinhu zvasviba kwandiri, handicharangarira kuseka kwavakaunza. Maungira chete emafungiro avo pamusoro pekuzviuraya: "Izvo zvine udyire" kana "Kana iwe uri benzi zvakakwana kutanga kutora [iyo Big Pharma] mishonga, ndinomira kuve shamwari yako." Ndangariro dzinodzokorora pese pavanotarisa ne "Chii chiri, wakadii?"

Dzimwe nguva ndinoreva nhema, dzimwe nguva ndinotaura hafu-yezvokwadi, asi handizombove chokwadi chizere. Kazhinji yenguva, ini handingo pindura kusvikira iko kushushikana kwepere kwapera.

Mashoko ane zvirevo zvinopfuura tsananguro yawo. Ivo vane nhoroondo, uye kuburikidza nekudzokorora kushandiswa muhupenyu hwedu hwezuva nezuva, ivo vanova zvibvumirano zvemagariro, kuratidzira tsika dzedu nemitemo yemukati yatinotarisira kurarama nayo.

Hazvina kunyanya kusiyana ne "mutemo wekumirira": kutenda kwekuti hunhu hunoratidzwa nenzira iyo munhu anobata nayo vashandi kana vashandi vebasa. Mutemo uyu hauna kunyanyosiyana kana zvasvika pakutaura nezvekuzviuraya uye kushushikana.

Haasi ese mazwi anogona kutorwa kumashure nyore - kana munguva

Mamwe mazwi akadzika midzi kwazvo mukunyomba kwakashata zvekuti nzira chete yekunzvenga zvarinoreva nderekusashandisa. Imwe yeshanduro dzakareruka dzatingaite ndeyekudzivisa kushandisa zvipikisheni. Kunze kwekupa kunyaradza kwako, hapana chikonzero chekuve nemafungiro nezvekuzviuraya kwemumwe munhu. Uye hapana chikonzero chekuita mamiriro kana kuitsanangura, kunyanya senhau.

Sokunyora kwakaita nyanzvi yokuzviuraya Samuel Wallace, “Kuzviuraya kwese hakusemesi kana kwete; kupenga kana kwete; udyire kana kwete; zvine musoro kana kwete; zvinonzwisisika kana kuti kwete. ”

Usambofa wakatsanangura kuzviuraya se

• kuzvida
• benzi
• mbwende kana kupera simba
• sarudzo
• chivi (kana kuti munhu ari kuenda kugehena)

Izvi zvinobva pagakava redzidzo rekuti kuzviuraya mhedzisiro, kwete sarudzo. Nekudaro, vazhinji vanozviuraya vanobvuma kuti kuzviuraya hachisi chisarudzo kana chiito cherusununguko.

KURWADZWA Kwepfungwa KUNOTORESA CHISUNGO CHEMAHARA?

Muchikamu chechina cheDiagnostic uye Statistical Manual yeMental Disorders, chirwere chepfungwa chine chimwe chinhu "kurasikirwa nerusununguko." Muchinyorwa chazvino kwazvo, "kurasikirwa nerusununguko" kwachinjirwa kukuremara, kana "kukanganiswa mune imwe kana zvimwe zvakakosha zviitiko zvekushanda." Izvi zvinonzi zvinosanganisira maitiro e "kurasika kamwe kana kwakawanda kwerusununguko." Mune rondedzero yake "," Gerben Meynen anoti chinhu chekuve nekusagadzikana kwepfungwa ndechekuti kugona kwemunhu kusarudza dzimwe nzira kunotorwa.

Mutsara yake yakaoma yeNew York Post, Bridget Phetasy akanyora nezvekukura mumhoteredzo umo kutaura kwekuzviuraya kwaiwanzoitika. Anonyora, "Hatidi kugara nemunhu aityisidzira kuzviuraya akaita kupfuura chero chinhu chakaitwa kuti zviite senge sarudzo."

Kune avo vane pfungwa yekuzviuraya, isu tinofanirwa kunzwisisa kuti kuzviuraya kunouya seyekupedzisira uye sarudzo chete. Inhema dzakarongedzwa. Asi kana iwe uri mukurwadziwa kwakanyanya kwepamoyo uye kwemuviri, kana zvasvika mumatunhu uye kutenderera kwega kwega kunonzwa kunge kwakanyanya, zororo kubva kwaro - kunyangwe riite sei - rinotaridzika sekutiza.

“Ndaishuva sei kusununguka; kusununguka kwemuviri wangu, kurwadziwa kwangu, kurwadziwa kwangu. Iyo benzi meme yaizevezera kutapira nothings kune chikamu chehuropi hwangu icho chaindiudza kuti mhinduro chete kumatambudziko angu - rwaive rufu. Kwete chete mhinduro - mhinduro yakanakisa. Uku kwaive kunyepa, asi panguva iyoyo ndakazvitenda. ” - Bridget Phetasy, weNew York Post

Iwe haugone kuvimbisa chero munhu kuti zvive nani

Kuzviuraya hakusarure. Kushungurudzika hakurove munhu kamwechete uye kunosiya kana mamiriro kana nharaunda zvachinja. Kukwezva kwekutiza kuburikidza nerufu hakusiyi nekuda kwekuti mumwe munhu ave mupfumi kana kuzadzisa zvinangwa zveupenyu hwese.

Kana iwe uchida kuudza mumwe munhu kuti zvinova nani, funga kana iwe uri kuita vimbiso iwe yausingakwanise kuchengeta. Uri kurarama mupfungwa dzavo here? Unogona here kuona ramangwana uye kubvisa marwadzo avo risati rasvika?

Marwadzo anouya haatarisike. Saka ndipo pavachave muhupenyu mavhiki maviri, mwedzi, kana makore matatu pasi pemugwagwa. Kuudza mumwe munhu kuti ave nani kunogona kuita kuti vaenzanise chikamu chimwe kune chinotevera. Kana pasina chinogadziridza nguva yekuwedzera, zvinogona kutungamira kupfungwa dzakaita sekuti, "Hazvizombovi nani."

Asi kunyangwe vamwe vangatenda kuti rufu pacharwo harusi nani, mameseji avanogovana, kunyanya nezvevanhu vane mukurumbira, anodaro neimwe nzira. Sekutaura kwakaita Phetasy, mushure mekunge Robin Williams apfuura, iyo Academy yeMotion Picture Arts neSainzi yakatumira "Aladdin" meme ichiti, "Genie, wakasununguka."

Izvi zvinotumira mameseji akasanganiswa.

Rufu serusununguko runogona kugonaZvichienderana nezviri kutaurwa nezviri kutaurwa, "rusununguko" runogona kuonekwa seanokwanisa uye kukurudzira avo vanorarama nehurema. Panyaya yemusayendisiti ane mukurumbira Stephen Hawking, vazhinji vakatumira tweeted kuti anga asununguka muviri wake wenyama. Izvi zvinokurudzira pfungwa yekuti kuve nehurema muviri "wakasungwa".

Muchirevo chekuzviuraya, inosimbisa meseji yekuti hapana kwekutiza kunze kwerufu. Kana iwe ukatenga mumutauro uyu uye ukaushandisa, zvinoramba zvichitenderera kuti rufu ndiyo mhinduro yakanakisa.

Kunyangwe iwe usinganzwisise ese nuances akakomberedza mutauro, pane mibvunzo yaunogona kubvunza kuti uzvichengete iwe mukutarisa.

Panzvimbo pekudzokorora zvataurwa nemumwe munhu, tanga wazvibvunza

• Ipfungwa ipi ye "zvakajairika" yandiri kusimbisa?
• Zvichachinja here kana shamwari dzangu dzichiuya kwandiri kuzobatsirwa?
• Zvinoita kuti ndinzwe sei kana vasingavimbi neni kuti ndivabatsire?

Rega chishuwo chekuva nzvimbo yakachengeteka yehama dzako dzinotungamira mazwi ako

Kuzviuraya ndiyo yechipiri-inotungamira chikonzero cherufu muvanhu vane makore gumi kusvika pamakumi matatu nemana. Yakura kupfuura kubvira 1999.

Uye vana vari kuramba vachitarisana nenyaya dzehutano hwepfungwa:

Hutano hwepfungwa huwandu

• 17.1 mamirioni evana vari pasi pegumi nemasere vane chirwere chepfungwa chinoonekwa
• 60 muzana yevechidiki vane kushushikana
• 9,000 (inofungidzirwa) kushomeka kwevadzidzi vepfungwa dzepachikoro

Uye izvi zvicharamba zvichikura, exponentially pachiyero ichi, nekuti hapana chivimbiso chinogona kuwana zvirinani. Iko hakuna kutaurwa uko hutano hwehutano huri kuenda. Therapy haisvikike uye isingakwanise kune vakawanda vangangoita mamirioni mashanu nezviuru mazana mashanu. Zvinogona kuramba zvichidaro kana tikachengeta hurukuro yacho yakamira.

Zvichakadaro, chatingaite kurerutsa mutoro wevatinoda patinokwanisa. Tinogona kushandura matauriro atinoita nezve hutano hwepfungwa neavo vanobatwa nahwo. Kunyangwe isu tisingazive mumwe munhu akabatwa nekuzviuraya, tinogona kufunga mazwi atinoshandisa.

Iwe haufanire kurarama nekushushikana kuti uratidze mutsa, uye haudi kuti iwe pachako uwane kurasikirwa.

Unogona kusatombofanira kutaura chero chinhu zvachose. Iko kuda kuteerera kune mumwe nemumwe nyaya uye matambudziko kwakakosha kune kubatana kwevanhu.

“Laugher hausi mushonga wedu. Nhau ndiwo mushonga wedu. Kuseka ihwo huchi chete hunotapira mushonga unovava. ” - Hannah Gadsby, "Nanette"

Tsitsi dzatinotakura kune vanhu vatisingazive dzinotumira meseji hombe kune vanhu vaunoda, munhu waungave usiri kuziva ari kutambura.

Chiyeuchidzo: Kurwara kwepfungwa hakusi simba rakakura

Kugona kumuka zuva rega rega apo nyika iri mukati memusoro wako ichidonha haigare ichinzwa sesimba. Irworwo rwunowedzera kuoma nenguva sezvo muviri unokwegura uye isu tine mashoma kutonga pamusoro pehutano hwedu.

Dzimwe nguva tinoneta nekutakura isu pachedu, uye tinofanirwa kuziva kuti zvakanaka. Hatifanirwe kunge tiri "pa" zana muzana yenguva.

Asi kana mukurumbira, kana mumwe munhu anoremekedzwa, akafa nekuzviuraya, zvingave zvakaoma kune mumwe munhu anoenda kuburikidza nekushushikana kuti azvirangarire. Vangave vasina simba rekurwisa mukati-kwekusahadzika uye madhimoni.

Haisi chinhu icho vanhu vaunoda vanofanira kutakura vega. Kuona kana vachida rubatsiro hakusi munzira ipi neipi yekuwedzeredza kutarisirwa.

Semutambi wekuAustralia Hannah Gadsby akanyatsoisa kudaro muNetflix yake yakakosha "Nanette," "Unoziva here kuti nei tiine 'Sunflowers'? Hazvirevi kuti Vincent van Gogh akatambura [kubva kurwara nepfungwa]. Imhaka yekuti Vincent van Gogh aive nehama yaimuda. Mukurwadziwa kwese, akange aine tether, kubatana nenyika. ”

Iva munhu kubatana panyika.

Rimwe zuva mumwe munhu haazotumire mameseji kumashure. Zvakanaka kuratidzira pamusuwo wavo uye kutarisa mukati.

Zvikasadaro, isu tinorasikirwa nezvakawanda mukunyarara uye kunyarara.

Kugamuchirwa ku "Ungave Sei Munhu," akateedzana nezve kunzwira tsitsi uye maitiro ekuisa vanhu pamberi. Musiyano haufanire kunge madondoro, kunyangwe bhokisi revanhu ratakwevera isu. Huya udzidze nezvesimba remashoko uye ufare zviitiko zvevanhu, zvisinei nezera ravo, dzinza, murume kana mukadzi. Ngatisimudzei vamwe vedu vanhu kuburikidza neruremekedzo.