6 Matipi Ekutaura Nevana Vako Nezve Zvinonyadzisira mune Bonde-Yakanaka Nzira

Zvemukati

• 1. Gadzira hwaro apo iwe nemwana wako munogona kutaura nezve izvi zvinhu
• 2. Tangisa zvinonyadzisira pamberi pezvaunofunga kuti unofanira
• 3. Chengeta matauriro ako akakosha asi akasununguka
• 4. Ngavabvunze mibvunzo
• 5. Simbisa mamiriro nemvumo
• 6. Goveranai zviwanikwa zvekuwedzera
• Zviwanikwa vadzidzisi vebonde vanokurudzira vana
  
• Aya matipi anogona kubatsira kuita kuti hurukuro ive yakanaka kune mese muri vaviri

Isu tinosanganisira zvigadzirwa zvatinofunga zvinobatsira kuvaverengi vedu. Kana iwe ukatenga kuburikidza nehukama pane ino peji, isu tinogona kuwana diki komisheni. Heano maitiro edu.

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"Nekuda kwehunhu hweinternet, kunyangwe kana mwana achingotsvaga mifananidzo kana ruzivo rwesainzi pamusoro pemitumbi, mashandiro emumuviri, kana magadzirirwo evana, porn ndiyo inowanzo kuve yekutanga kana nhamba mbiri yekutsvaga," anodaro.

Kusvika pane zvaari kutaura, Shadeen Francis, LMFT, murume wekuroora uye wezvemhuri anonyora zvidzidzo zvebonde zvechikoro chepuraimari uye chesekondari, anoti nezera remakore gumi nerimwe vana vazhinji vanenge vaoneswa mhando yerudzi rwepabonde pamhepo.

Zvinosuruvarisa, dzidzo yepabonde uye zvinonyadzisira hazvisi zvakafanana. "Zvinonyadzisa zvinogona kushandiswa sechinhu chekudzidzisa zvepabonde, asi chinotarisirwa kuva varaidzo yevakuru, kwete yekudzidzisa," anodaro Francis. Mukushayikwa kwedzidzo yebonde yakatarwa kana kutaurirana kuri kuitika kumba nezve bonde, vana vanogona kukonzeresa porn nekuita bonde uye voisa mukati meseji dzakazara mune zvakanyanya porn.

Ndosaka Francis achisimbisa kukosha kwevabereki nevachengeti vachitaura nevana vavo nezvebonde uye nezve porn.

"Kana mubereki achiwedzera kuomesa kudzidza kwevana vake, ndipo pavanokwanisa kudzidzisa tsika dzinovaka uye dzinobatsira kupokana neruzivo rwusingagari, rusina hanya, kana rwusina hunhu rwavanogona kudzidza munyika," anodaro.

Zvakadaro, semubereki zvinogona kukuremedza kutaura nyaya yezvinyadzo nemwana wako. Tine izvozvo mupfungwa, isu takaisa pamwechete uyu mutungamiri wevabereki wekutaura nevana nezve porn.

Tevedza aya matipi ekuchengetedza hurukuro yekuita bonde-yakanaka uye nekugadzikana sezvinobvira - kune imi mese.

1. Gadzira hwaro apo iwe nemwana wako munogona kutaura nezve izvi zvinhu

Ichokwadi, kutaura nemwana wako nezve porn unokwanisa iva anonzwisa tsitsi.

Asi, kana iwe nemwana wako muchigara muchikurukura nezve bonde, kubvumidzwa, kugamuchirwa kwemuviri, kuchengetedzeka pabonde, mafaro, nhumbu, uye hutano hwakakwana uye hutano, matanda ehurukuro yega yega akaderera, anodaro Francis.

Kunze kwekudzikisira kusimba kunogona kuvaka kuita "hurukuro yekuona zvinonyadzisira," anoti kugara uchiita hurukuro idzi kwakakosha pakupa mwana wako hwaro hwezivo nezve hutano hwepabonde - tsika yakakosha, zvichipiwa kuti dzidzo yepabonde muzvikoro haina ' kazhinji ndinopa icho.

Uyezve, izvi zvinobatsira kukurudzira kunzwa kwekuvhurika, saka pavanogumburwa kana kuona zvinonyadzisira, vangangouya kwauri kana vaine mibvunzo.

2. Tangisa zvinonyadzisira pamberi pezvaunofunga kuti unofanira

Kusvika pamusoro apa, nyanzvi dzinobvumirana nenguva yakanakisa yekutaura nevana vako nezve porn pamberi ivo vanozviona chaizvo.Nenzira iyo, iwe unogona kuisa mumamiriro ezvinhu chero mifananidzo yavanogona kuona uye kubatsira kudzikisira chero alarm, kunyangadza, kana kuvhiringidzika kwavanogona kunzwa kana vachiona zvinonyadzisira vasina kumboziva chero ruzivo rwekuti zvinhu zviripo pakutanga, anodaro Francis.

Ruchiva runosimbisa kuti hurukuro pamusoro pehupombwe dzinofanirwa kunge dzichiitika nguva refu usati wayaruka.

"Vabereki vanowanzofunga kuti makore gumi nemana kana gumi nemana izera rakakodzera kuti vauye nazvo, asi sumo yemusoro wenyaya inofanirwa kunge iri makore mana kana mashanu apfuura - kana chaizvo chero nguva mubereki paanenge achipa mwana mukana wekutarisa internet," akadaro. anodaro.

Paunotaura nevana vako, yeuka kuti hausi kungovaudza chimwe chinhu chinonzi porn chiripo. Iwe urikutsanangurawo zvazviri uye zvisiri, uye uchizviisa mukati mehurukuro hombe pamusoro pemvumo, mufaro, uye simba, anodaro Francis.

3. Chengeta matauriro ako akakosha asi akasununguka

Kana iwe uchinyanya kuomarara kana kunetseka, iwe zvakare uchataurirana iro simba kumwana wako, rinozovanyararidza uye zvingangovhara mukana wehurukuro pakati pako.

"Usanyadzisa mwana wako kana uchifungidzira kana kudzidza kuti aona zvinonyadzisira," anodaro Francis. Asi, nzwisisa kuti kuda kuziva zvepabonde chinhu chakasarudzika chikamu chebudiriro.

"Semurapi anoshanda zvakanyanya nevanhu vakatenderedza kunetseka kwavo pabonde, zviri pachena kuti meseji inonyadzisa uye isina hukama nebonde inokanganisa manzwiro evanhu mukuzvikoshesa, kuwanika kwerudo, hutano hwepfungwa, uye sarudzo dzevamwe," anodaro.

Nekudaro, pachinzvimbo chekusvika pakukurukurirana se "chirango" kana "internet internet," iwe unoda kuisvika semudzidzisi uye mutarisiri.

Nepo hurukuro yacho ichifanira kujekesa kuti mafirimu evakuru ndeevanhu vakuru uye kugovana zvido zvavo zvebonde kana vamwewo vana zvinonzi zvinonyadzisira zvevana, Francis anoti, "Ukangosimbisa kuti hazvisi pamutemo kana kubvumidzwa mumba mako, vana vanogona kutya, kunyara, kana kuda kuziva zvakawanda. ”

Ruchiva runoti zvinogona kubatsira kutanga hurukuro nekusimbisa kuti bonde nehupombwe zvakajairika uye zvakasikwa, uye kuvaudza zvaunofunga iwe pachako nezvezvinowanzoitika porn.

Unogona kuti, "Pandinoona mifananidzo yakawanda yehupombwe ndinonzwa shungu, nekuti yakawanda yemifananidzo iyi inoratidza vakadzi vachirangwa. Asi bonde randinaro uye ndinovimba uchaita rimwe zuva chiitiko chemafaro, kwete chirango. ”

Imwe nzvimbo yekupinda? Shandisa dimikira. "Tsanangura kuti saSuperman anotambwa nemutambi asina masimba masimba muhupenyu chaihwo, nyeredzi dzinoonekwa mumafirimu aya vatambi vanogadzira bonde, asi handizvo zvinoita bonde muhupenyu chaihwo," Ruchiva runoratidza.

4. Ngavabvunze mibvunzo

Nhaurirano yakadai yakanakisa senge iyo chete: hurukuro. Uye kuti chimwe chinhu chive hurukuro, panofanira kuve nekumwe kudzoka-uye-mberi.

Izvi zvinoreva kuti kusimbisa kuda kwavo kuita zvechisikigo zvakajairika, wobva wavapa nzvimbo yekutaura nezvazvo uye kubvunza mibvunzo.

Kana vabvunza mibvunzo, "Tora mibvunzo yavo yese seyakafanira, uye upindure neruzivo rwakakwana kuti upindure zvizere asi kwete zvakanyanya zvekuti unoremedza," anodaro Francis. Ivo havadi dissertation, asi ivo vanoda chaiyo, muviri-wakanaka, uye zvine musoro, mafaro-akatarisana info.

Kusaziva mhinduro kwakanaka “Haufanire kunge uri nyanzvi. Unofanirwa kungopa nzvimbo yakachengeteka yekutaurirana, ”anodaro Francis. Saka, kana iwe ukabvunzwa chimwe chinhu chausingazive, taura pachena kuti hauna chokwadi, asi iwe uchaona uye uteedzere.

Pane iyo flip parutivi, dzivisa kubvunza mwana wako mibvunzo yakawandisa. Uyu mukana wekuti vadzidze kubva kwauri, kwete kuti iwe uburitse kunze kwezvavanoita nezvavasingazive, kana zvavanazvo kana zvavasina kuona.

Francis anokurudzira zvakare kudzivirira kubvunza mwana wako sei vanoda kuziva zvinhu. "Kubvunzurudza uku kunogona kuvhara vana, sezvo vangangoda kuburitsa pachena kwavakanzwa zvinhu kana kuti nei vari kushamisika," anodaro.

Uyezve, vangangodaro vasina chikonzero chakadzama; vangangobvunza nekuti vane ruzivo.

5. Simbisa mamiriro nemvumo

Zvakawanda sekuda kwaungade kuchengetedza vana vako kubva mukusarongeka uye nehurongwa hweudzvanyiriri munyika, sekutaura kwaFrancis, uyu mukana wakanaka wekutanga kutsanangura zvinhu zvakaita sekusaziva mukadzi, kupokana kwerudzi, kunyadzisa muviri, uye kugona, anodaro Francis. "Iyo yekutaura zvinonyadzisira inogona kuve chikamu chehurukuro hombe uye kuve nechinangwa chakakura," anodaro.

Nekudaro, iwe unogona kushandisa izvi sekanguva kutarisa kuti haisi miviri yese inoita senge vatambi ve porno kana vatambi, uye zvakanaka, anodaro Francis.

"Izvi zvinogona kubatsira vechidiki kuti varege kuzvienzanisa nemiviri yavo iri kukura uye vasiye nzvimbo yakawanda mune zvavanotarisira izvo ivo nevavanoda kuzoita uye zvavanofanira kuratidzika, kazhinji, uye kuita kunge vachiita bonde," anodaro Francis.

Kana, iwe unogona kushandisa izvi semukana wekutaura navo nezve mufaro, chengetedzo, mvumo, muviri uye pubic bvudzi, uye nezvimwe.

Kana mwana wako aine mibvunzo yakatarwa, iwoyo anogona kuve iwo anotungamira mafambiro munzira chaiyo iyo hurukuro inotora. "Unogona kugara uine hurukuro yekutevera kana iwe usingakwanise kubata pane zvese," anodaro Francis.

6. Goveranai zviwanikwa zvekuwedzera

Kunze kwekutsanangura kudonha kwepabonde kwakanyanya, kupokana nezvingave zvakaonekwa nemwana wako kana zvaachaona mu porn zvakakosha, anodaro Francis.

Sei? Nekuti kukurukurirana uye zvekudzidzisa zvinobatsira kudzidzisa tsika dzakakomberedza zvinhu zvakaita sekugamuchirwa, kubvumidzwa, kunakidzwa, uye kusagadzikana zvinobatsira mwana wako zvirinani kufambisa zvinonyadzisira zvavanosangana nazvo, anodaro.

"Kuchengeta maturusi aya hakubatsire vechidiki kuita sarudzo dziri nani uye dzakadzidziswa zvirinani, uye hazvingavadzivise kutora maitiro ane njodzi," anodaro Francis.

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Zvino, vana vako pavanenge vachikura, unogona kutaura nezve dzimwe nzira dzekuwedzera kuona zvinonyadzisira, zvinosanganisira zvinhu zvine ruzivo rwevanhukadzi senge yevakadzi kana yetsika yezvinonyadzisira, erotica, nezvimwe, anodaro Francis.

“Haufanire kugovana navo zvinhu zvacho. Asi kana vachizove vatengi, vabatsirei kuva vanoziva vatengi, ”anodaro.

Aya matipi anogona kubatsira kuita kuti hurukuro ive yakanaka kune mese muri vaviri

Kusiya vana kuti vadzidze nezve bonde uye kugadzirisa zvinonyadzisira ivo pachavo mashizha matani emakamuri ezvengozi dzavasina kushongedzerwa kufamba, saka kutaura nevana vako nezve porn kwakakosha.

Kana iwe uchinzwa kutya, ramba uchifunga kuti, sekutaura kwaFrancis, "Chinangwa chako chekutanga ndechokuvapa nzvimbo yakachengeteka kuti vabvunze mibvunzo yavo nezve porn, izvo vangangodaro vakaona kare pa internet, nezvimwe," anodaro.

Uye yeuka: Hazvina kumbonyanya kukurumidza kana kazhinji kuti uve neiyi hurukuro.

Gabrielle Kassel ndeyeNew York-based Wellness munyori uye CrossFit Level 1 Mudzidzisi. Iye ave munhu wemangwanani, akaedza iro rese30 dambudziko, ndokudya, kudhakwa, kukwesha pamwe, kukwesha pamwe, nekugezwa nemarasha - zvese muzita rezvenhau. Munguva yake yekusununguka, anogona kuwanikwa achiverenga mabhuku ekuzvibatsira, kubhenji-bhenji, kana kutamba pole. Mutevere pa Instagram.