Chikonzero Chakakosha Ndirikurera Mwanasikana Wangu Kuti Ave Mumhanyi (Izvo Hazvinei Nezvekusimba)

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"Enda nekukurumidza!" Mwanasikana wangu akadanidzira patakasvika pa runDisney Vana Dashes panguva Star Wars Rival Run Weekend paWalt ​​Disney World muFlorida. Ndiwo mutambo wechitatu weDisney wemutambi wangu ari kusimukira. Iye anotorawo jimu, kushambira, uye kutamba makirasi, anotasva sikuta (ngowani pamusoro, chokwadika) uye anokwenenzvera raki yetenisi achishevedzera achiti, "Nhabvu!" Uye nhabvu, zvinoreva nhabvu. PS Ane makore maviri.

Tiger amai? Pamwe. Asi kutsvagurudza kunoratidza kuti vasikana vanotora chikamu mumitambo vanowana mamakisi ari nani, vanozviremekedza zvakanyanya, uye mwero wakaderera wekushushikana. Ivo zvakare vanogona kuzogara munzvimbo dzehutungamiriri gare gare muhupenyu.

Nepo vasikana vechikoro chesekondari mitambo yekutora chikamu iri pazvese-nguva, sekureva kweNational Federation of State High School Associations ongororo, vachiri kusara shure kwevakomana nevadzidzi vanopfuura mamirioni 1.15. Panguva imwecheteyo, kutora chikamu mumitambo yevechidiki vari pasi pemakore gumi nemaviri kwakaona kudzikira kubva muna 2008, maererano neSports & Fitness Industry Association. Uye 70 muzana yevatambi vadiki ivavo vachadonha nezera re13, maererano neNational Alliance for Sports. Kuvimba kwevakadzi-par pamwe nevakomana pazera re12-plummets nezera re14.

Humbowo hunoratidza kuti kufumura vasikana munjodzi yekuisa njodzi uye kutadza kujaira kunogona kuve kiyi yekurwisa gaka rekuvimba. Mitambo ndeimwe nzira yechokwadi-moto yekuita izvozvo. "Mutambo ingori mukana wakarongeka uye uripo nyore wekuona kurasikirwa, kutadza, uye kutsiga," nyora vanyori vanyori ve Ruvimbo Code kuVasikana Claire Shipman, Katty Kay, naJillellyn Riley mukati Atlantic.

Ndakatoona kupatsanurwa kwevakadzi pavadiki. Makirasi angu ekushambira emwanasikana anowanzo kuve musanganiswa wevakomana nevasikana; mushure mezvose, kushambira hunyanzvi hwehupenyu. Asi kirasi yake yekutamba ndeyevasikana vese uye kirasi yake yemitambo ine vakomana vaviri kumusikana wese. (Uye hongu, kutamba kwemakwikwi ndizvo mutambo uye zvese vatambi ndivo vatambi.)

Asi ndinoona chimwe nechimwe chichikosha zvakaenzana. Mukutamba, akadzidza nzira itsva dzekufamba, kumhanya kwebhiza uye bere richikambaira richidzika nemigwagwa yeNew York City, zvakandityisa. (Hand sanitizer, STAT!) Iye jetés, chassés, uye twirls, kwete nekuti "girly," asi nekuti kugona hunyanzvi hutsva kunonakidza. Uye ave akasimba zvakanyanya, panyama, mukuita. Apo murume wangu paakamutora kuti aone New York City Ballet ichiita munzvimbo dzepedyo, dzepasi-padanho paMuseum yeMazuvano Art, iye akangofanana nekushamisika nevatambi vachifemera kufema kubva padanho sezvaaive nekuita kwavo. Iye zvino anokumbira kutarisa "purrinas" paTV uye kunyepedzera kunge ake ballet maflat ari ballet slippers.

Pachikwata chemitambo, anodzidza mutambo mutsva uye hunyanzvi vhiki rega rega, sebhasiketi nekudonha, baseball nekukanda, nhabvu nekukamba, pamwe nekumhanya kweshuttle, trampoline kusvetuka kuteedzana uye nezvimwe. Sezvo vhiki dzave kufambira mberi, ndakamuona achiunza hunyanzvi uhwo kumba, achikanda bhora rega raanogona kuwana nekudonhedza chero bhora richakwenya. Anoda kutamba netenesi rake rinenge zuva rega rega. Wedu #1 mutemo? Usarova imbwa. (Zvakafanana: Ndinotenda Nevabereki Vakandidzidzisa Kugamuchira Fitness)

Uye kushambira? Iye achasvetukira mumvura asina kubatsirwa, akaisa musoro wake pasi ndokuuya achikosora nekunyemwerera. Haatyi. Ndinovimba kuve mutambi kuchamubatsira kuti arambe akadaro.

Ehezve, chinangwa chese chiitiko chemuviri hachisi chekungomuchengetedza hutano kana kumunetesa, asi zvinobatsira zvese. Kutsvagisa kunoratidzira chiitiko chemuviri chinogadziridza kusangana uye ndangariro. Iye ari kudzidzira kuve mudzidzi ari nani, kwete chete mutambi ari nani. Uye izvo zvinoshandura mukana mukuru wekubudirira muchikoro. Vatambi vanowana mamakisi ari nani, vanopinda chikoro chakawanda, uye vane mwero wepamusoro wekupedza kupfuura vasiri-vatambi, zvinoenderana neboka hombe rekutsvaga.

Kune musikana, izvo zvakakosha sekare. Kana "Gore reMukadzi" ra2018 rakatidzidzisa chero chinhu, ndeichi: Tinofanira kushongedza nekupa simba vasikana munzira dzese dzatinogona. Zvepabonde zviripo uye zvakanaka-mhoro, # MeToo-uye siringi yegirazi yakanyatsogadzikana. Mushure mezvose, kune varume vakawanda vanonzi John vanomhanyisa S&P 1500 makambani kupfuura vakadzi, sekureva Iyo New York Times. Uye kubva mushumo wa2015, 4 muzana chete yemakambani iwayo (anomiririra 90 muzana yeUS stock market kukosha kwese), aive nemukuru wechikadzi. Muna 2018, 4.6 muzana chete yemakambani eFortunes mazana mashanu aifambiswa nevakadzi. Hukuru #facepalm.

Asi "Gore reMukadzi" rakachemawo izvi: hatisi kuzotora zvakare. Tinogona kunetseka kuti tiwane mubhadharo wakaenzana, kuenzana, uye kuremekedzwa sevarume mumaindasitiri mazhinji nemakona enharaunda. Asi madzimai akawanda ari kupinda muzvinzvimbo zvehutungamiriri, sezvakaita madzimai zana nembiri enhoroondo akagara mudare reVamiriri gore rino. Tiine zvigaro zveimba mazana mana makumi matatu neshanu, tiri ndoda pakati pekuenzana.

Kupa mwanasikana wangu-nevanasikana vedu vese-chipo chemitambo ndiyo imwe nzira yekuenda ikoko. Vanosvika 94 muzana yevatungamiriri vebhizinesi vechikadzi munzvimbo dzeC-suite vane mamiriro emitambo, maererano neongororo yakaitwa neEY neESPNW..

Mushure mezvose, mitambo-uye zvimwe zviitiko zvemakwikwi, zvakare-dzidzisa kuzvidzora, hutungamiriri, kubatana, manejimendi yenguva, kufunga kwakasimba, kuvimba, uye zvimwe. Semunhu anokwikwidzana kushambira ndichikura, ndakadzidza kuti kukundikana kazhinji ndiro danho rekutanga pakubudirira. Rimwe gore, timu yangu yekumisikidza haina kubvumidzwa mumusangano mushure mekunge mumwe wedu watakasiya bhora kare kare. Isu tanga tichishanda pane imwe nyowani yekuchinjana nzira iyo yainzwa kunetseka kune isu tese. Semwana, iyo DQ yakanga yakaoma kumedza. Yakanzwa sechinhu chikuru. Saka takashanda tisinganeti mukudzidzira, tichichera kuchinjana kwedu kusvika tese tawirirana. Takazotora mutsara iwoyo kusvika kumakwikwi eIllinois, kwatakaisa chechishanu mudunhu.

Semubati wekushandira pamwe, ndakadzidza zvazvaireva kuti timu ishande seye-chaiyo uye nenzira yekufananidzira. Takakwasva tiri munhu mumwe ndokurwa tiri vamwe. Apo vashandi vangu pavakanzwa maitiro emurairidzi wedu aisangoita zvisina basa asi zvebonde, takabata timu musangano tikasarudza kutaura. Akatipopotera nguva zhinji. Waanofarira? Chipfuramabwe "semusikana" sechombo. Zvakatinyadzisa. SaKaputeni, ndakaronga musangano naye uye mukuru wechirongwa chekukwasva kuti nditaure zvinonetsa zvevashandi vangu. Kukurumbidzwa kwavo, havana kungoteerera chete; vakanzwa. Akave murairidzi ari nani uye takava timu iri nani mukuita izvi. Anopfuura makore makumi maviri gare gare, iwo mafungiro zvakadaro kwakazara munharaunda yedu. Hazvishamisi kuti nguva dzose #LikeAgirl mushandirapamwe wakaita kuti vanhukadzi vakawanda vauye.

Zvino, ndava mumhanyi. "Amai mhanyai nekukurumidza," mwanasikana wangu anodaro paanoona ndichisunga kukanda kwangu. Dzimwe nguva anozouya nemateki ake oshevedzera kuti, "Ndinoenda nekukurumidza!" Anoda kumhanya achikwira nekudzika munzira. "Kurumidza! Kurumidza!" anoshevedzera achimhanya. Usamborangarira chokwadi chekuti hapana mumwe wedu anonyanya kukurumidza. Anomhanya seMuppet, chero nguva uye chero kwaanogona. Asi patakabata mutsara pa runDisney Vana Dash, akandibata. (Yakabatana: Ini ndakapwanya Chinangwa Changu Chikurusa Chokumhanya SeMakore-Makore-Makore Nyowani Amai)

"Kukubata!" akadaro, achiratidza kuti aida kuti ndimutakure. "Haudi kumhanya here?" Ndakabvunza. "Maminetsi mashoma apfuura iwe wanga uchimhanya uye uchishevedzera, 'Enda nekukurumidza!"

"No, hold you," akadaro achitapira. Saka ndakamutakura nemudhuze. Akakwenya kubva nzeve kusvika panzeve apo pataimhanya pamwe chete; kunongedza nekunyemwerera patakasvika padyo naMinnie Mouse takananga kumagumo. Akapa hug yakakura Minnie (iyo yaachiri kutaura nezvayo) uye mangoti munhu anozvipira akaturika menduru muhuro make, akabva atendeukira kwandiri. "Hona Minnie zvakare. Ndamhanya!" Akadaidzira. "Zvakanaka, asi uri kutomhanya nguva dzino?" Ndakabvunza. "Ehe!" akadanidzira. Ndakamuisa pasi iye achibva amhanya.

Ndakadzungudza musoro, ndichiseka. Ehe, ini handigone gadzira mwanasikana wangu anomhanya kana kushambira kana kutamba kana kuita chero mumwe mutambo. Chandinogona kuita chete kumupa mukana, pamwe chete nekurudziro netsigiro. Ndinoziva kuti ichawedzera kuoma sezvo iye achikura, sekumanikidzwa nevezera uye kuyaruka kunorova. Asi ndinodawo kumupa mukana wese wekudzvova. Ndivo mai ingwe vari mandiri.

Pandinotarisa kumwanasikana wangu, ndinoona ramangwana CEO, congresswoman, kana pro mumhanyi? Zvamazvirokwazvo, asi kwete hazvo. Ndinoda kuti ave ne sarudzo, kana zviri izvo zvaanoda. Kana pasina chimwe chinhu, ndinovimba achadzidza hupenyu-hwerudo rudo rwekufamba. Ndinovimba achakura akasimba, ane chivimbo, uye anokwanisa, akashongedzerwa kutora jasi revakadzi rakamumirira. Ndinovimba achadzidza kukumbundira kutadza uye kutaura chokwadi kune simba, angave murairidzi wake, shefu kana mumwe munhu. Ndinovimba anowana kurudziro mukudikitira, asi kwete nekuti ndinoda kuti ave seni.

Aiwa ndinoda kuti atove nani.

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